Wednesday, December 12, 2012
Mini Series: Wedded Bliss...{Intro & The Proposal}
So a few bloggers I follow are getting married soon and I can't help but think back to that stressful time in life.
Because let's be honest...it is really stressful.
Do you hire a planner, what do you splurge on and where do you cut corners, what really matters and what do you obsess over because you think that part has to be perfect?
There are a billion questions and details that run through your mind and for me, that happened meer hours after I said "yes" while bawling my eyes out on Christmas Eve 2010 standing under that spotlit tree, in the snow, with the most beautiful diamond I had ever seen. {Of course I am biased}
So I was thinking...I should do a mini series on weddings since it is an obsession a love of mine. If I weren't an event planner for larger events I would be planning weddings every day for the rest of my life.
Without further ado, I'm going to start at the beginning. The proposal, of course!
Here is our proposal story. Since I am a control freak, when J took me ring shopping after visiting almost every store and trying on every shape and setting possible...I said "I want that one, and I want you to buy it right now" and so he wouldn't lose the ring of my dreams...he did just that.
The ring is so important and you really have to stay true to what you love. I had always dreamed of a Tacori 3 stone ring with tons of detail and when it got down to it, I put that ring on and had zero connection to it. My heart was pulled to a simple, classic, round cut solitaire with a high setting---a ring that sparkled. Something so simple and classic that if I decided to, I could pass down to our children one day and it would still be in vogue. Two years later....that ring was presented to me and I still loved it then as much as the day I picked it out.
Gents....stick with the surprise. Even if she says she doesn't want a surprise {like me-I almost ruined it by trying to cop out of the family tradition} it will mean so much to her than you went to such lengths to keep it a secret and make it memorable--FOR HER.
It isn't about extravagance. You need to focus on what's important to you all as a couple, for us...it was family. And to be honest, although I said I wanted it to be some extravagant thing in public where our friends and family popped out at the end...it was so much more special the way that it happened....it was us.
Girls....Don't play detective!!! I got my hopes up so many times thinking he was going to do it {since we had the ring for 2 years, I knew where it was "hidden" or in our case...where it was taunting me} and before any big occasion or date night I would check. just don't do it. It will ruin the night or occasion because you will be wondering when it will happen. Let the man be the man!
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I'm glad you didn't check. I love surprises, so I'm never one to try to figure that stuff out, but I'm glad you didn't know!
ReplyDeleteMe too! I love that he was actually able to surprise me...for once!
DeleteHey, I saw that you wanted to swap buttons with Kelly. I want to swap with you, too. Let me know where I can find your button info!
DeleteTotally! Email me your button in a jpg {that's the only way I know how to do it?} and I'll respond wit a jpg of mine!
DeleteI got chills just reading that story and got so excited to think about when it will happen for me. I have no idea when and even though I say I want to know, I really don't. If I know Shaun though, it will be every bit a surprise :)
ReplyDeleteAw! Thanks, Kelly! You will look back and thank Shaun for sure....it is so much more special when you can tell they have worked so hard at making it special for you! J and I had the ring for 2 years because we knew we would eventually get married and it taunted me every day for those 2 years...but looking back, his timing couldn't have been more perfect!
DeleteI'm totally staying tuned to Honor, Courage, Commitment in case it happens sooner rather than later ;)
Lol thanks :D I'm hoping not long after the New Year! I read so many blogs that are wedding-related and I'm not ashamed to say that I can't wait for mine to become one of those! I don't know how you pulled off knowing about that ring for two years; if it were me, I know I probably would have bugged Shaun every other day about it haha.
Deleteps - I added your button to my blog!
Let him surprise you!!! Knowing about the ring was so difficult but I knew he was the one and I was willing to wait :) {plus since he sucked at hiding it...aka it stayed on the bed side table...I got to try it on whenever I wanted!!!} And don't let this post fool you....poor J....I bugged him ALL the time about it!
DeleteThanks for the email about the no-reply...I had no idea! So that's fixed! I'll pull your button and put it up today!!